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Will my struggle ever completely go away?

This question is one that plagues many people who are overcoming a homosexual struggle. A person’s level of motivation does help to predict his or her success, but effort is not always the answer.

In their book, Sexual Identity, Mark Yarhouse and Lori Burkett write:

It is important to understand that effort does not always predict success when it comes to a change of orientation. Many people try for years and invest emotionally and financially in a change program only to continue to experience same-sex attraction at least occasionally. They are often hurt when they come across Christians who tell them that they just haven’t tried hard enough, or that they just don’t have enough faith that God will heal them… Although we believe that God can intervene in a person’s life and miraculously act to change any concern, including a person’s unwanted sexual orientation, in most cases, God does not intervene in this way. As with most other besetting conditions, God can bring healing, but He often chooses not to. In each specific case we don’t know why God allows a person to live with any one of a number of conditions, but we do know that God promises not to abandon us in our struggles.

This is true in my case. While temptations still occasionally come my way, I liken them to a pesky fly. They pass my way and bother me for a minute, I shoo them away, and then they’re gone. I must frequently remind myself of the truth that I am a new creation in Christ (2 Corinthians 5: 17) in the spiritual realm — but in the physical one, I will continue to deal with temptation. However, this does not negate the fact that I live in complete victory.

None of us, this side of heaven, is completely free from temptation. That’s why Jesus offers Himself with the words, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11: 28). And in doing so, He also promises to be faithful. “He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it” (1 Corinthians 10: 13).

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